NOT AN OPTION

Why do people put "black tie optional" on wedding invitations? If you want people to dress up then say so. If you don't, then skip the mention of dress code and let them decide for themselves. It's completely passive aggressive. You know the bride really wants you to wear black tie, she just wants you to WANT to wear it. It's like when a girlfriend says it's fine for her boyfriend to go out and then gets mad at him for actually going out. If you're a bride,, say it straight. If you're a guest, know that "black tie optional" isn't really an option.